Where has the world gone??
The school shootings in the past week have really made me think, What is wrong with society? I mean what posesses someone to enter a school and hurt innocent children? Now I have uneasy feelings sending my son to school. Of course I think what are the odds of something like that happening here, but I am sure all of the victims in the past week have thought the same thing at one point in time. Its a shame that we have to now question school, that was one of the only safe places we as parents had to send our kids.
I just wonder what makes people the way they are? Is it nature or nurture? Does it boil down to these attackers were beat or molested as children and this is the only way they know how to channel their angst?
My mother in law always is telling me that they best gift I can give my kids is to be here everyday when they are home. I thought at first, that was a pain in the ass and I needed my breaks. But now I agree, I am doing a world of good being here for my kids. I think that being a latch key kid just might lead to some of these social problems. Kids with too much time and not enough supervision, a recipie for disaster!!
I just wonder what makes people the way they are? Is it nature or nurture? Does it boil down to these attackers were beat or molested as children and this is the only way they know how to channel their angst?
My mother in law always is telling me that they best gift I can give my kids is to be here everyday when they are home. I thought at first, that was a pain in the ass and I needed my breaks. But now I agree, I am doing a world of good being here for my kids. I think that being a latch key kid just might lead to some of these social problems. Kids with too much time and not enough supervision, a recipie for disaster!!
posted by kristi at 10:57 PM
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I saw a profiler on tv the night the amish one happened. She said something I think is right. These sick people want to go out with a bang and have their name in the news and history. School shootings is a way to do that. And they are getting so common that they are now having to one up the last guy. So the last guy one upped the shock value by going to the amish school. We can not ignore it, but giving it all the media attention is what the sickos want. I hate it but it is not gonna change. If this world ever gets better I think it will get worse first. What will be will be and we can not sit around and worry because no place is safe anymore. We just have to make sure the ones we love now how precious they are to us. I just wonder why there seems to be so many more sickos now. Is it something we are doing as a society. Or is just a natural increase in their numbers as our population increases.
I think a lot of these kids are so angry because in a lot of the cases the parents are divorced,the Mothers start getting a life of there own and some of them do not pay any attention to their kids, they get boyfriends,and the kids come second, a lot of times the boyfriends are mean to the children, some get molested, its just a sick sick world today. Im not knocking divorce, Im divorced too, but I was older when I got divorced..and my kids always came first with me.
Then too the media makes so much of things, such as the guy they thought killed Jon Benet, you couldnt turn your tv on without seeing his face.
I think the answer to some of it would be to lock the doors of the schools...make the students go through a metal detector before they enter the building. Sounds drastic doesnt it? drastic measures for drastic times.
I dont think the laws punish the criminals enough..I dont believe these people need a trial...they need the death penalty...thats why we have it. And it shouldnt take years and years for them to use it.
I dont believe you can reform a person with so much hate in their heart that they can take the lives of innocent children.
I agree with Mimi that people do it to go out with a bang. I wish it was more acceptable in our society for people to ask for help and accept it because I think that is a big problem as well. People have too much pride to ask for help so they either get depressed or get angry.
The shooter at the Amish school said he went there because he knew security would be lax. I was a working mother, divorced once while my kids were growing up. They are 19-26 now: one teacher, one social worker, one communications major, one nursing major and one in college to be a psychologist. It takes more to twist a person than a few childhood wrinkles. Bravo for you for being a conscientious, hands on MOM.
I agree to many people have children today as a fashion accessory and when not in fashion leave them to fend for themself
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I think being at home when your kids are around is super important. The time doesn't really last all that long anyway.
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With the internet sickos can feed their fantasies and connect with others who are likeminded. There is the increase in media attention. Worst of all the justice system which still has not changed the penalty for sex crimes (still too lenient) enough and monitoring system (if there is one)is not good enough. So whether a parent is stay at home or working it doesn't really change how children are vulnerable when we are not with them in school.
I don't know, it is just plain scary. Does seem there needs to be some drastic measures in many regards.
heartbreaking.
on a sad side note, when my daughter was still in high school I volunteered (for the day of the anniversary of columbine) to stand guard outside the library. A lot of kids didn't turn up for school that day. Only ten parents showed up to help teachers, school officials and to show support for the kids and let them know we were there guarding them. Man, was I nervous. Isn't it a terrible thing that we have to do these things, or even think about them.
such is life in these modern times.
I was thinking the same thing..but being as I am in the business that I am in..the only thing I can come up with is EVIL. Plain and simple...to go into an Amish community and commit violence such as that??? E V I L...
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I wonder if, rather than showing so much negative news, the networks showed more positive things, would we see less of this kind of thing. Perhaps we would see copycats of good rather than heinous. Let's put Dr. John on the evening news!
It upsets and worries me also. Not just this week - but through tons of shocking things that happen in most every school. Their policys have also changed. For ex: They try to separate kids in classes to discourage bonding/gangs/clicks.
I don't know how I would had made it if it wasn't for having a best friend in most of my classes all day and through my school years.
We still have 2 years to go, but are seriously considering home schooling.
-Margie
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I am passing by in the Dr. John Marathon. Here is my pop psychology opinion on today's violence. Remember, my thoughts are worth exactly what you paid for them:
I am a teacher. I work in a public school. I can assure you that most kids are normal, healthy and loving. They have the same wants, feelings and desires as everyone else their age. What they don't have is the supervision and guidance to learn how to deal with frustration, upset and anger.
I believe that many turn to the media for their release, and what does the media show them as an acceptable and effective means of venting? Violence.
I think that if my kids were young, I would be volunteering more at school.
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You are so right, spend time with your kids, make them feel wanted and you won't go far wrong. Dr John sent me.
Good for you! I was always there when my kids were younger. Now my oldest is off in college and my "baby" has started sr. high. I wish I could still be home, but unfortunately, my job means she's home after school for a while on her own, but at least as a school bus driver I am home evenings, weekends, holidays and all summer.
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i love having been at home with my kids. it has done as much for me as for them. i would never though think of telling anyone else that it is the only way to raise good kids. i know plenty of children who grow up just fine...i think it comes down to own choice and reasons that back that up. i know plenty of stay at home moms, who stay at home for laziness and don't give the kids any attention..they be better with a structured setting...
in the end it is the love and care, respect given to a child that often makes a great difference. i don't know why some kids do what they do..but i know that parents, society and their own person must take responsibility for where things went wrong..
i see the world, and often wonder why is it that we are so willing to let our morals and values go by the waist side...in the search of money, fame and vanity we accept too many wrongs...
end of rant..sorry...here by dr. John.
ps..you are a wonderful mom Kristi. those kiddies are very lucky to have you raise them.
Our quest for Political Correctness has led to a generation of under-disciplined children who have no idea of "boundaries". It's not their fault... It's ours, unfortunately.
One can only hope they will eventually learn from our mistakes and turn things around with their kids.
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There is no easy answer...
Because what happened was unthinkable...
I can not imagine preventing it as I could nver imagine anyone being as evil as that...
I remember in my neighbourhood there was an abduction and killing of a ten year old girl who we knew)
I prayed an prayed for her safe return.My husband prayed for her return.
I was with out breath when they found her dead...
My husband and I cried a valley of tears... I phoned my father who was a homicide detective and asked how I should talk to my daughter about it...(She was in Senior kindergarten) And he said, not to take away hope...Never take a child's youth away... He saw atrocities but never, never did he put fear into our hearts...
Fate interceded a bit as my daughter got the chicken pox and was home for two weeks so she missed all the talk in the schoolyard and the classroom...
Ever since that day...I can not watch the evening news... My heart can not cope...
The school shootings ARE completely unnerving. If I had a child, I would be scared to send him/her to school, too! I think a lot of kids are abused (sexually, emotionally or physically) and the abused person (esp. if it's a male) often wreaks havoc on the next generation. Not to mention the violent pornography that a lot of boys grow up on.
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I agree with Andrena.I think it is evil. I acame from Dr john but not sure if i am on the right loist.
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